Self-Compassion

Kansas City Psychotherapy Counseling Services – Counseling Services for Self-Compassion, Positivity, Acceptance, and Forgiveness

At the center of happiness is self-compassion, acceptance and forgiveness.  Positive Psychology, Mindfulness, Acceptance, and Forgiveness are all great tools to help overcome negative emotions.  Below are worksheets, videos, and other resources geared towards helping you develop your own mindful self-compassion and acceptance.

Counseling Authors and Videos of Interest:

Kristin Neff’s TEDx talk on Self-Compassion: The Space Between Self-Esteem and Self Compassion.  Kristin Neff is one of the pioneers in the field of self-compassion.  Below are some additional resources from Kristen’s website, as well as some worksheets for practicing self-copmassion.  She is an associate professor of human development at the University of Texas at Austin, and author of the forthcoming book, Self-Compassion: Stop Beating Yourself Up and Leave Insecurity Behind…https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=IvtZBUSplr4

The Act of Self-Compassion

Christopher Germer is a clinical psychologist and professor at Harvard Medical School specializing in Buddhist spirituality, mindfulness, and acceptance-based treatment.  He is the author of The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion and Mindfulness and Psychotherapy, which focus on cultivating loving-kindness in one-self.  His talk…http://www.mindfulselfcompassion.org/.

You can access worksheets on mindful meditation from: www.mindfulselfcompassion.org

The Power of Positivity and Taking in the Good

Barbara Fredrickson is a clinical psychologist, a professor at University of North Carolina, and the author of “Positivity.”  You have — within you — the fuel to thrive and to flourish, and to leave this world in better shape than you found it. Sometimes you tap into this fuel – other times you don’t. But the sad fact is that most people have no idea how to tap into this fuel or even recognize it when they do….http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ds_9Df6dK7c

Learn about positive connections online at: Watch video on Positive Emotions

The Neuroscience of Happiness

Rick Hanson is a neuropsychologist and author of Buddha’s Brain: the practical neuroscience of happiness, love, and wisdom.  He focuses on the fact that “Your brain acts like Velcro for negative experiences and Teflon for positive ones”…the remedy is not to suppress negative experiences; when they happen, and to also hold or savor positive experiences.  His talk…http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rTPks7XQbSw

Videos and articles pertaining to shame, self-worth, good intentions, and gratitude: www.rickhanson.net

The Concept of Radical Acceptance

Tara Brach is the author of Radical Acceptance and True Refuge (2013).  She is the founder of the Insight Meditation Community of Washington, DC and is a clinical psychologist whose approach combines Eastern spirituality with Western psychology.  Her talk…http://tarabrach.com/video.html

Tara has a number of videos online that focus on freeing ourselves from suffering: www.tarabrach.com

The Healing Power of Emotion

Daniel Siegel is a professor of medicine at UCLA studying family interactions with an emphasis on how attachment experiences influence emotions, behavior, autobiographical memory and narrative.  He is the author of several books regarding mindfulness, parenting and human development, including The Healing Power of Emotion. His talk…http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nu7wEr8AnHw

Find awareness and meditation exercises at: www.dansiegel.com

Trusting Doubt: Deconstructing Fundamentalist Christian Beliefs

Valerie Tarico is the author of Trusting Doubt: A Former Evangelical Looks at Old Beliefs in a New Light. Like her, many Christians today realize that blind or forced faith, in the midst of doubt, is not a path to God or goodness.  The video…https://www.youtube.com/user/TrustingDoubt?feature=watch

Valerie is also the creator of Wisdom Commons, an interactive website that seeks to elevate our shared moral core, sometimes called universal ethics at: www.wisdomcommons.com

Counseling Services Worksheets:

Below are handouts (pdf) from the Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) training program currently under development by Kristin Neff (Self-Compassion.org) and Christopher Germer (MindfulSelfCompassion.org) as well as additional exercises developed by Kristin Neff. These materials are best used in conjunction with the Meditation Audio FilesThe Mindful Path to Self-Compassion and Self-Compassion

Compassionate Letter to Myself (pdf)

Forgiveness (pdf)

Pleasure Walk (pdf)

Self-Compassion Break (pdf)

Soften, Soothe, and Allow in Daily Life (pdf)

Soles of the Feet (pdf)

Soothing Touch (pdf)

Changing Your Critical Self-Talk (pdf)

How Self-Compassionate Are You? (pdf)

Identifying What You Really Want (pdf)

Self-Compassion Journal (pdf)

Taking Care of the Caregiver (pdf)

The Criticized, The Criticizer and The Compassionate Observer (pdf)

Counseling and Mental Health Articles About Self-Compassion:

The Key Difference Between Pride and Arrogance

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-squeaky-wheel/201407/the-key-difference-between-pride-and-arrogance

Being kind to yourself (Live Science)

Go Easy on Yourself, a New Wave of Research Urges (New York Times)

How self-compassion trumps self-esteem (National Post)

Interview with Jean Fain (The Huffington Post)

Self-Compassion (Spirituality and Health magazine) – pdf

Self-Compassion: Give yourself a break and you may just do better (The Globe and Mail)

Self-compassion may matter more than self-esteem (MSNBC)

Self-critical, can’t take compliments, always focus on your own failings? Why ARE we women so hard on ourselves? (Daily Mail)

The neuroscience or self-esteem, self-criticism, and self-compassion (Live Science)

Why Self-Compassion trumps self-esteem” (Greater Good)

Audio/Visual Support for Self-Compassion:

Center for Mindful Self-Compassion – Meditation Audio Files:  http://www.centerformsc.org/audio_files

Take the Self-Compassion Test: How Self-Compassionate Are you?   http://www.centerformsc.org/self-compassion_test

Dharma Seed: Freely Offering Western Buddhist Vipassana Teachings:  http://www.dharmaseed.org

Self-Compassion Test – http://www.self-compassion.org/test-your-self-compassion-level.html

Build Self-Esteem –

http://www.buildingself-esteem.com/what-is-self-esteem.html

Mindfulness Counseling Publications and Articles:

http://www.mindfulselfcompassion.org/publications_articles.php

http://www.centerformsc.org/articles_chapters

Smiling Mind – Modern Meditation to reduce stress and relax – http://au.reachout.com/Apps-and-Tools/Smiling-Mind

Positive Psychology – Psychology Today – https://www.psychologytoday.com/topics/happiness

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